I deleted the post I wrote this morning. It was supposed to make me feel better about how frustrated I am with the FH but it did not make me feel better. It made me feel worse. It made me want to pack and leave for an extended vacation to anywhere else in the entire world. So I’m going to say this: The FH has some stuff to learn….I hope he learns quick.
Filed under: Short and Sweet
I saw it in my feed reader so I’ll leave my comment anyway. Sometimes men just don’t get it – you MIL is right about that. My hubby is one of the most thoughtful guys ever but he missed the boat on my first mothers day. I was living in Guatemala, away from him, taking care of our 8 month old child in a 3rd world country where I barely speak the language and struggled daily to make sure we had clean water in our house to make bottles with and cook with. His sister came down to visit over mother’s day. HE SAW HER THE DAY BEFORE SHE FLEW DOWN TO SEE ME and didn’t think to even send a card with her. I was so hurt. I felt so alone to begin with and then not even a card. And when I mentioned it to him he said he forgot. I wasn’t impressed.
My suggestion is to spell it out for him (without yelling if possible) how sad it made you that he didn’t acknowledge the day for you. Tell him it would behoove him to do something after the fact to mark the day but that if he chooses to apologize and move on he better get it right next year.
BTW – my hubby arrived in Guatemala a month later and bought me jewelry as a late mother’s day gift. I let him pretend that had been his intention all along.
So there is my 2cents+ worth.
i seen your post in my reader too. i know exactly where you are coming from and well, that’s all i have to say about that.
hope your monday improves!
Well from the comments I get the basis of your deleted post. Mind if I comment?
Guys don’t get it. They just don’t. My husband doesn’t get me a card at all (not even for my birthday) and hasn’t for years. If it weren’t for the kids being old enough to acknowledge Mother’s Day, I’d get squat. His attitude is that it just isn’t any different from any other day. Unfortunately I’ve just had to deal over the years. He finds other ways to appreciate me I guess, and doesn’t get into the hype of the special day. He’s the same with Valentine’s Day. Makes me crazy. But after 10 years of marriage I still love him, so I find ways to just deal with it. I’m sorry that on your first Mother’s Day you had to be sad. That’s just not fair. I hope your Monday gets better.
Looks like you should have left it up so we could all tell you we’re in the same boat! My husband doesn’t believe in “Hallmark” holidays. After 13 years I’m used to it, but I still don’t like it. It’s not a fatal flaw, just annoying.
I missed the boat on this one. I can sort of gather what it was about based on previous comments.
Men? Are dumb.
I’m sorry
As I probably have already done all or any of what FH did, I will not comment further. I just feel I should apologize for some reason…
